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We live in a world that equates confidence with being the loudest in the room.
But what if real confidence isn't loud at all?
What if it's still… quiet? What if it's grounded? What if… it is silent self-assurance rather
than bold declarations?
And what if… it’s not something we’re born with, but something we build? Wouldn't that
mean at any time we can start to become confident if we find we're not?...
Confidence Is a Craft, Not a Trait
Contrary to popular belief, confidence isn’t something we’re born with. It’s not a personality
type. It's not a race. It’s a practice, a discipline.
Confidence is built—brick by brick—through intentional effort: discipline, self-reflection,
skill-building, and most of all… self-acceptance.
We don’t become confident by pretending. It's actually the opposite. The more we pretend is
the more we become insecure. Because we know in our solitude that we are acting. And the
more we pretend is the more unhappy we find ourselves.
Confidence is built by knowing, accepting and perfecting who you are, flaws and all—By
conquering your fears and choosing authenticity first and foremost. By living in your
purpose, designed for you and only you.
And as you start to build this confidence, you might wonder: What will keep it in
momentum? What will reinforce it? Well, self-knowledge.
Self-Knowledge Is the Foundation
None of us can walk confidently in what we don’t understand.
The more you get to know yourself—your strengths, your shadows, your triggers, your
talents—the more empowered you become to live unapologetically, the more you find
yourself aligned, and the more you find yourself living in purpose.
That kind of self-awareness breeds confidence that doesn't need to announce itself. It simply
exists. Rooted. Steady. Clear. In tune with the universe within and outside of ourselves.
How Confidence Shows Up
Confidence is not just internal either—it shows up in how we live.
A proud parent speaks with joy about their kids, not because they're showing off, but
because they deeply values their role. You can also see a proud parent show confidence in
silence. Hugging their kids, kissing them good night, and thinking about their favorite toy
while running an errand to the grocery store. The confidence is there regardless of who is
there to witness it, nor is it validated by external factors.
An artist, athlete, or professional doesn’t hesitate to share their work because it reflects
their dedication and identity. Their life will start to form around their craft, to whether in a
crowd or in solitude, they are that person through and through.
Confidence means owning who you are—openly, truthfully, and without apology.
Confidence ≠ Cockiness
Loud does not equal confidence.
Cockiness often masks insecurity. It’s loud, performative, and rooted in the need to be seen,
to be heard, and to be validated by the outside world.
True confidence is subtle. It doesn’t demand the spotlight. It doesn't ask to be
center-stage—but it will radiate and attract attention regardless.
So what is the key of shifting between the two? Self-awareness. It's knowing the difference
between when you're performing for validation of others versus living in authenticity when
no one is looking.
What If You’re Closer Than You Think?
Yes, you are. And no, you don’t need to become someone else to be confident. I would say
you just need to remember who you are, own it, and perfect it.
Confidence isn’t the absence of doubt. It's more than okay if you find yourself in that place.
But confidence is the conscious decision to keep showing up for yourself in spite of doubt.
To speak life into yourself, and truth into yourself, because you have always had the
capabilities to build it.
And if you’re wondering on how to build it, here’s a secret: It starts with getting to know
yourself—it starts with self-study.
Ready to Own Who You Are?
The building blocks of confidence is already inside you—waiting to be expressed and
embodied by you.
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the most confident version of you.
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“Confidence doesn’t shout. It simply knows.”
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